As in all developed countries, as well as in developing countries, the number of divorces is increasing. However, this growth ç'tregon? Weakening of family ties or crisis of marriage and marital relations, social prestige decline of marriage and family? Character closely based on motives which created marriage and family? High degree of emancipation of family or marital relationships skepticism about the future of the family itself?
If
we say that this or that is the reason, it would be wrong, because the
reasons are so general that vary from place to place and time. Social researchers, have long been looking for an answer as full of arguing the question. As
a starting point for divorce studies, conducted almost throughout the
twentieth century, served thesis that the divorce rate is high there
when the level of social integration is low. Among
the indicators of the degree of social integration and therefore
affects the divorce, is the rate of population change, stability, or the
opposite: not its stability, migration, urbanization level, etc..
In
the transition through which Kosovo society is undergoing, as was
easily converted from a traditional society to an open society and
consumption of western values without increasing attention in the
selection of positive values on the one hand, and on the other,
without being economically prepared as family and society.
In the past (traditional family), the family's role was crucial in solving marital problems. Now, as if solving marital problems that lead to separation are barely making its responsibility couple. Thus,
the role of the family is greatly diminished in solving problems,
especially in urban areas, especially couples with a high degree of
education and emancipation etc..
Such changes have to be made that much easier to reach the final decision to divorce. In this case, create gaps in domestic and indelible effect on family life. So,
divorce is a whole process, long and complex crosses in a series of
stages or stages (paranderja, sharing, adaptability, shuffle, and
remarriage), each presents different problems for the divorced and
separate families.
With
the implementation of the study in 2007, we managed to understand the
consequences of divorce are many and varied, depending on the economic
situation of the divorced couple and their age.
The
difficult social and economic situation in the country even further
burdens the lives of divorced couples and their children, or feminine,
given the low level of education, high unemployment rate, which brought a
grim perspective for the divorced - especially for women. Meanwhile,
most of the consequences that come into consideration after divorce,
are: reduced reproductive capacity of women, remarriage waiver, waiver
of births in remarriage, the appearance of stress, boredom, inadequate
child care, low success lessons
to children and divorced parents in the end the spread of negative
phenomena such as prostitution, drugs, alcohol and other phenomena.
According
to sociological studies, women are the ones who suffer the most in
terms of economic view, which this is most evident in the society and in
the majority of cases the divorced wife goes into becoming sex family
burden. While psychological and social point of view, numerous studies have shown that adaptation is the same for both sexes.
In the last decade in Kosovo, divorce has seen a significant increase. Furthermore, if we compare the beginning and end of the past decade then tripled (in 2000 it was 3:33 per cent). During
the study conducted (2007), we come to conclusions that vitin1970 every
married couple shkurorëzohej 44, while in 2007 every 11th wedded couple
divorced. These results indicate that indeed the increased divorce rate in Kosovo. Studies
are focused and in other indications which lead to divorce, separation,
respectively, such as entering a new age of marriage, differences by
age and level of education, the employment rate of men and women,
personal income, marital alternatives, symptoms of depression, lifestyle before and after marriage husband wife especially etc..
Dissolution phenomena as part of every society, where less with more pronounced. However, as we noted above, the reasons for divorce vary from country to country. Take
for example the U.S., one of the countries largest industrialized,
where the number of divorces is very large, which has high impact
economic development and social.
While
other countries, such as Canada, etc.., Which by law have allowed
divorce easier, have also contributed to the increase in the number of
divorces. But these are not the only factors that have contributed to the increasing number of divorce. Have the greatest impact wars. World War II, eg destroyed many families. In Britain, in 1974, divorces increased tenfold compared with paraluftën.
While
in Kosovo society, the study conducted has shown that the main causes
that lead to divorce are: adultery presented as one of the main causes
that lead to divorce, inadequacy of characters, family implications (mix
of other members in the conjugal life). .. No small impact immigration has also, unfavorable economic situation and other cases. One
of the reasons very present and important in the divorce of couples in
Kosovo is the presence of domestic violence, particularly violence
against women by the spouse or other family members of the husband.
Life
of divorced persons in the context of our society, followed by an
impact of stigma and social isolation of their own and their families,
especially against women. Woman
in traditional families, and less nowadays, is deprived of the right to
contact her children, and is denied by many social privileges, being
isolated inside the house most of the time. While her family is labeled in various forms from the district for a long time.
In
conclusion, adjusting to life after divorce is a link that is
experienced by divorced seriously, especially by female parents,
especially those who have left their children. Separation from parents to children is very heavy, especially by female she experienced severe. Who will care for the children? Do you have to eat and drink? All these come as the weakening health of mothers and in most cases make their life without prospects. This
happens in Kosovo, the fact that the state of social and economic
heavily in special cases patriarkalist mentality has prevented women
take charge of the care of her children.